These are my letters to Tyler. They are the conversations that we would have on a daily basis. We can't do that any more. In some small way, this is my tribute to my son and probably my way of healing. Every night we would talk about everything. I can still do that, and I know he's listening.
Sunday, January 31, 2021
Dear Tyler,
Hi my sweet son! How are you doing on this Sunday late afternoon? Mom is so sorry that I did not get a chance to write yesterday but I will explain to you why.....
Friday night was a huge mess. Mom was pretty sick to her stomach again. I was in and out of the bathroom until about 10:30 pm. I did get some sleep that night but not much. Saturday morning we were up early and got the pups fed and walked. We needed to get ready and be out the door by 9:30 am to meet our realtor that was about 45 minutes away. We made it on time. We looked at 5 houses that were for sale and none really tickled my fancy. They were nice but didn't scream "home" to me. The area was really nice though. It was super quiet and they people were so friendly. We are just going to continue to look at more houses. We got home at 1 pm. We relaxed and chatted with Meme and Bob for a bit. We were suppose to have a showing at 2:30 pm but I guess the people that were coming were late flying in and they wanted to come anytime after 4 pm. They wanted to text when they were 20 minutes out. Mark said no as that was such an inconvenience to us. We had an early dinner and fed and walked the pups. Mark and Mom were both tired. I was still feeling kind of crappy. We went upstairs at 6:30 pm. We were watching tv and Mom fell asleep at 8 pm. I woke up at 8:30 pm because I was feeling sick once again. Mark feel asleep at 8:15 pm. He turned the tv off and fell right to sleep. Guess the day wore us both out. Mark was up at 2 am. He was sick. I guess I slept through that part. We both woke up to Ozzy being sick this morning. Neither of us bothered to go back to sleep so we stayed awake.
Sunday~ We were up at 6:30 am. Mom was cleaning the carpet while Mark was holding Ozzy. Poor little bugger...he is still feeling rough. He is sound asleep right now. Anyways... we fed and walked the pups and then Mark had a cup of coffee. We wanted to go do something today but decided against it as Mark was still not feeling the greatest. We did get ready and we went and did some shopping. Meme's Birthday is this week so we got her her gifts and then we went to get boxes, bubble wrap and tape. We are going to start the process of packing some of our belongings up. We still don't have any offers but we are wanting to get ahead of the game so to speak. We are hoping that a couple offers come in and soon. Mom is praying like crazy! after we got home around 1 pm...Mom put things away and came right into my office. I needed to pay all the bills (30 of them to be exact..) and then I ordered flowers for Meme to be delivered on her Birthday. We are having Chinese for dinner that night per her request as well. She should have a good Birthday. Mom just got done all that and now I have about 15 minutes to write to you before it is time to do the dinner thing for the pups and us. It has been a very busy weekend. This week is going to be just the same as well. Mom has her boxes to work on Monday and Tuesday to get them out this week and then the rest of the month will be plugging away at my school to get it finished. I have until 2/24 or if I don't finish...I have to apply for a 6 month extension. I don't want to do that but if I have to then I will. That would give me until August to finish. I would like to see that done before we move so that way I can just tend to my business. We shall see. It will be a busy week for Mark as well. He is at the office tomorrow instead of Tuesday. Mom has a nail appointment on Tuesday too. Lots of errands this week. I will keep you posted on everything as it happens. Please continue to help us so that we can sell this place and get out of here! Thanks pumpkin!
Mom really has no new updates. I will fill you in when I do have some. I know that NH is going to get a snow storm tomorrow into Tuesday. I hope Grandpa is playing it safe and doesn't over do it. I worry about him. Mom will be back tomorrow with another letter to you in the afternoon. I will put the candle warmer on tonight as well for you. I will whisper to you before I fall asleep so smile to me when you hear my voice and I will smile back to you. I miss you like crazy and I love you to the moon and back and all the way around the world. You are my true hero and the wind beneath my wings. Forever you live in my heart, mind, body and soul. Have fun while I get some sleep tonight. Come visit me in my dreams if you can.
Until tomorrow comes...good night and sweet dreams my sweet precious son.
Always, Mommy xoxoxo. Muah 💖
Friday, January 29, 2021
Dear Tyler,
Hi my sweet son! How are you doing on this Friday evening? Mom is not going to be able to write to you very long today because it is already after 5 pm and I am just getting done my boxes. I am so sorry that I haven't written to you in 2 days either. I know that you see how busy Mom has been and I know you understand but I still can't help but feel guilty for not writing.
These last 2 days...Wednesday and Thursday have been nothing but curating all my boxes for February and getting the card insert written and typed up so that they can be printed out. Mom also had to do all the pictures and wording for the website, Facebook and Instagram. This was all just finished as of 5 minutes ago. It has been a crazy whirlwind of a week but I am done and happy with all the results. I will print the papers off this weekend and insert them in my boxes along with their Valentines Day cards and then the rest will be just taping the boxes up and getting them to the post office next week. I am pretty proud of myself for doing all this in 3 days. It has not been easy and I have hustled my butt to get it done in between cleaning and leaving so that showings can be done for the house. We have been getting a bit of traffic but still no offers coming in yet. Mom knows that the right buyer is out there for this house and I hope that this buyer comes along quickly! I am still praying every morning and night that we get good news and soon. If we want to be out by April 1st then we need to have some offers come in within the next couple weeks. Anything that you can do with God and the Angels, Mom would definitely appreciate it so much. Tomorrow Mark and Mom are going to go look at some houses. They are a few that we are really interested in but we don't want to get our hopes up at all because we need to sell the one we are in before we can move and make an offer on a new home for ourselves. Mom will update you over the weekend on how it went and what we thought of the places. The one that Mark really liked and wanted to show Mom is now under contract so we can't go and see it. We are both bummed out but Mom knows that with the perfect buyer for ours...there is a perfect home out there for us as well. Mom is trying to stay positive through this whole ordeal. It is seriously stressful.
Mom hasn't really spoken to anyone this week other than Aunt Beck. She is doing well. She was just checking on on us to see how we were doing. Bean is good too. Guess she is happy with her new little apartment with her BF. That is great to hear. Grandpa is having trouble with his furnace again. Guess he was up all night last night because it wouldn't work. The weather there has been below zero so everything is freezing up. I wish that he would realize that he is not as young as he once was and time. Debbie doesn't help him at all either. I wish he wouldn't be so stubborn and he would just give in to moving here. At least he wouldn't have to worry about that stuff anymore and we could help them out if need be. Debbie says he will never move but I think it is her that won't. Sometimes she really pisses me off. Anyways.... Mom will update you as I know of things. I will write to you tomorrow evening as we will be gone all day and I will write to you on Sunday as well. I need to get going now to feed the pups and walk them plus we need to get dinner going for ourselves. It is 5:30 pm. Time is escaping Mom. I will light a candle for you in a bit. I will whisper to you later this evening so smile for me when you hear my voice and I will smile back to you. I miss you more than words can say. I love you to the moon and back and all the way around the worlds. You are my hero and the wind beneath my wings. Forever you live in my heart, mind, body and soul. Have fun while I sleep tonight and hopefully you can come visit me in my dreams. Please watch over us and keep us safe and healthy. Fly high and free, pumpkin. Until tomorrow comes...good night and sweet dreams my sweet precious son.
Always, Mommy xoxoxo. Muah 💖
Tuesday, January 26, 2021
Dear Tyler,
Hi my sweet son! How are you doing on this Tuesday afternoon? Mom has a few minutes to write to you before I need to get back to prepping my boxes. I was up at 6 am this morning. Poor Ozzy was sick and after cleaning up everything, Mom could not get back to sleep so I stayed awake. Pups were fed and walked at 7 am. mark got ready to head to the office while I got coffee and food ready for him. He left around 8 am. Meme and Bob left around 9 am for his doctor visit. Mom came upstairs and I made the bed, got ready and then came straight to my office to start the process with my boxes. I was able to take all the pictures that I needed to for the website and then I got a few things out for the boxes themselves. My office is a mess but oh well. It will be clean again in a couple of days...lol! Mom was home for about 3.5 hours today. It was quiet and it was nice. The pups were great until Meme and Bob got home and then they acted up. I don't know what got into them because they peed on the carpet. They knew I was not happy with them at all. Princess is sleeping on the window bench and Ozzy is in his bed sleeping. meme is downstairs with Rocky and Bob, I believe is either in his room or their spare room on his computer. It is very quiet though. It is a nice change! I tried texting Mark to see how his day was going but I got nothing back in response. I am sure that he is exhausted. He worked yesterday from 8 am to 5 pm and then had class from 7:45 pm until 10 pm. He came crawling into bed at 10 pm and stayed awake for about 15 minutes and crashed. I hope he gets home early so that he can relax for this evening but something tells me that is not going to happen. Meme and Bob will follow their schedules as always and they will eat at 4 pm, take Rocky out at 6 pm and they will turn in for the night by 6:15 pm. We won't see them again until the morning. Mom will probably just cuddle in the bed and watch a movie while Mark does his thing. I try to stay quiet so that I do not disturb him. It doesn't always work but I try.
No news on the house. The folks that looked at it yesterday decided to pass as they needed a bedroom downstairs and we don't have that. The ones that came on Saturday are still deciding. Mom is prayer and crossing her fingers that they make an offer. That would make things so much easier. Mark and Mom are going to look at houses on Saturday morning. I believe we are looking at 5 of them. They are all in the same area so that makes it easier. I will let you know what our thoughts are. I will keep you posted. Anything that you can do from above to help us sell this house and fast...we would appreciate it so much. Thank you my sweet precious son.
Aunt Beck called yesterday and so did Mom's friend, Bonnie. It was good to chat with both of them as it has been a bit. Mom also spoke to Grandpa last night for over 90 minutes. He was telling me that he has to have 2 hearing aids now as he has no hearing in his left ear and partial hearing in his right one. Debbie is doing well too. She was in the background watching tv or on her computer, I am assuming. They said it was super cold there. Here it is in the 80's. Very nice like Mom likes it!!!! Not much else is going on but I will tell you about things as I know of them.
It is time for Mom to get back to her boxes. I have a couple hours before it is time to do the night stuff so I have to take advantage of it while I can. I hope that you get to do all that you need to do and want to do later this evening. Come visit me while I am sleeping if you can. I have had my candle warmer on for you all day and I will turn the other one on later this evening as well. Smile for Mom when I whisper to you later tonight. I will smile back. I love you to the moon and back and all the way around the world. You are my absolute hero and wind beneath my wings. Forever you live in my heart, mind, body and soul. I will be back tomorrow with another letter so until then....please watch over us and keep us safe and healthy. Fly high and free like I know you are. I miss you more than words..... my love is unconditional. Good night and sweet dreams later.....
Always, Mommy xoxoxo. Muah 💖
Monday, January 25, 2021
Dear Tyler,
Hi my sweet son! How are you doing on this Monday afternoon? Mom is doing better than I was last week at this time but still not feeling the greatest. Mom took the weekend off so that I could rest as much as I could. Saturday we had a showing at 1 pm. It took Mom all morning to get the house ready. I have to vacuum the floors, sweep them, dust, clean the kitchen and then vacuum the carpets upstairs and get ready. I took my time and didn't rush at all. The showing was for 30 minutes. The people were really nice. Mom just found out about 20 minutes ago that they are still deciding on what to do. It is between our house and 1 other. Our fingers are crossed they want our house. Mom is going to be praying harder then ever to God, the Angels and you to help us down here. We need to move. We need to sooner rather then later. You see what we go through. Our goal is to be gone from this house by April 1st. We want to be out before the next rush of renters come in before Easter. Please, Tyler, if there is anything that you can do to help us out...please. Mom and Mark will forever be grateful to you. I will keep you posted as I know of things. Anyways...Saturday night was quiet. We didn't do anything at all. Mom was lounging in bed at 6:30 pm. I think I fell asleep at 9:30 pm. I was still feeling pretty crappy and the day took so much out of me.
Sunday morning we were up bright and early. Mom felt off. I didn't feel sick but I felt "weird". Mark and Mom were suppose to go do something fun but we changed our minds. We decided that we would run errands and grocery shop. We got that all done and we were home around 2 pm. Mom put everything away and then made a potato salad. That got all done by 4 pm and then it was time to feed the pups and walk them. We had hamburgers on the grill for dinner. Mom was so hungry but when I was eating I felt sick to my stomach. I stopped eating and sat down for a bit. I was up in bed again at 6:30 pm. I fell asleep around 10:30 pm.
Monday...today...up at the usual time. Got the pups fed, walked and then ate a bite to eat before coming upstairs and getting things set again. We had a showing at 11:45 am. The folks were really sweet. They said that they loved Mom and thought I was a sweetheart. The rooms were a bit small for what they needed and they needed a bedroom downstairs as well. That is ok. I enjoyed chatting with them. The realtor was so super sweet. She was awesome! That got done around 12:15 pm. Mark grabbed some lunch and then Mom came back into her office. I did a few emails and looked a few things up and then now I am writing to you. The rest of the week will be all about working on my boxes and getting them put together. I have a lot to do in such a short time but I will do it! I will get it all done. No worries there! Mark has a busy week as well. All 3 jobs and also a training class to do. Bob is at the doctors tomorrow and that is it for them for the week. Meme is Meme. Mom has tried to have conversations with her and I can't get anything through her head. I am done trying. I guess she will deal with it and everything when we move. I am done stressing over it and I refuse to get sick again because of it. You know what I am talking about.
Tonight will be dinner for the pups, a walk and then dinner for Mark and Mom. After that we will relax and watch tv. Mom is hoping that I feel better enough so that I don't have to be in bed at 7 pm. I would like to call Grandpa and see how he is doing. I haven't spoken to them in over 10 days. Mom will update you on things when I know of them. I sure hope you have fun tonight while I get some sleep. Come visit me in my dreams if you can. I miss you beyond any words can possibly say. I love you to the moon and back and all the way around the world. You forever will be Mom's hero and the wind beneath my wings. You live in my heart, mind, body and soul. I have a candle burning for you right now and I will have the warmer burning for you later this evening. I will whisper to you before I go to bed so smile for me and I will smile to you. I will be back tomorrow with another letter. For now, Mom must do a few things to get started on her boxes. Until tomorrow comes...good night and sweet dreams later.
Always, Mommy xoxoxo. Muah 💖
PS What happened last night with your Green Bay Team? They lost to the TB Bucs and Brady is going to another SuperBowl...ugh... Lol. You know why Mom is shaking her head... Hopefully the Kansas City Chiefs take it and WIN!!!!! Love you, pumpkin xoxoxo
Friday, January 22, 2021
Dear Tyler,
Hi my sweet son! How are you doing on this Friday late afternoon? Mom is doing better. I am up and out of bed today. I was awake at 7 am. I fed the pups and walked them too this morning. I made the bed and took a shower and even tried to have something to eat. That really didn't go as planned but I tried and that is all that matters. I accomplished a bit today so I am proud of myself. Lots of phone calls and emails sent. More than I have gotten done in the last 7 days. I am tired though. Mom doesn't feel like cooking so I ordered dinner out. I didn't tell Mark...I just did it...so surprise to him...lol. Hope he doesn't get pissed at Mom. Nope...just asked him and he was pleasantly surprised that I did that so all is well...lol.
Mom won't be able to write a long letter tonight because it is already after 5 pm and the pups aren't fed or walked but I wanted to come on and tell you that I think of you all the time. I miss you more than anyone knows and I love you to the moon and back and all the way around the world. You are my hero and the wind beneath my wings. Forever you live in my heart, mind, body and soul. I will light the candle tonight for you. I will whisper to you before I fall asleep as well. Smile for Mom and I will be sure to smile back to you my sweet precious son.
I will write to you again tomorrow as we are not going anywhere or doing anything. We have a showing request for the house at 1 pm. We will be cleaning the house and getting it ready in the morning and then relaxing in the afternoon. Sunday, we are going to go out though for a bit if I am feeling up to it. We need to just go out and do something fun. There is way too much stress in this house right now. I will tell you all about it in the letters that I write to you over the weekend.
Tonight will simply be dinner and then nothing. Mark needs to relax and unwind. Maybe a bath for him. He has been busting his butt all week. Mom is going to relax in bed with the pups and watch some tv and then go to bed. I have been calling it a night around 9:30 pm or earlier. I am just resting when my body tells me too. I will have updates for you as well. I have spoken to Aunt Beck, Aunt Shirley and I will be chatting with Grandpa later. Have fun tonight while I sleep. You came to me in my dreams last night or this morning. It was sad and I don't understand why I was reliving what I had to all over again. It confused me. I was upset. I hope you come to me in happier times. Thank you my sweet precious son. Please continue to watch over us. Keep us safe and healthy. No more sickness please! Mom has had enough. Thanks pumpkin. I love you with all my heart. Unconditionally. I will be back tomorrow. Until then...good night and sweet dreams.
Always, Mommy xoxoxo. Muah 💖